Knucklehead Podcast Ep. 160: How To Learn From Your Mistakes with Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) and Systemic thinking coach, Joseph O’Connor.

Knucklehead Podcast Ep. 160: How To Learn From Your Mistakes with Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) and Systemic thinking coach, Joseph O’Connor.

Mistakes happen all the time, they’re inevitable. They’ve always been part of being human, since time immemorial. Though mistakes are often seen as negative, they can actually be positive learning opportunities. We all make them. Whether they’re big or small, what matters is what we learn from them.

In today’s edition of the Knucklehead Podcast, our guest, Joseph O’Connor shares some of the knucklehead moments that he has learned from, why people are hesitant to take risks, and what role coaches play in helping individuals.

Joseph O’Connor is an internationally recognized author, trainer, executive coach and consultant. He is a leading author and trainer in coaching and Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) and Systemic thinking. Co-author with Andrea Lages, Joseph wrote the book Coaching the Brain: Practical Applications of Neuroscience to Coaching.


In This Episode

2:33 – Joseph’s knucklehead moments that he has learned from

5:21 – How red flags can only be seen in hindsight

7:43 – Joseph’s conclusion on the way he operates

10:57 – What makes humans averse to risk

13:29 – Why coaches are not advisors

17:37 – What inspired Joseph to incorporate neuroscience into his coaching

Favorite Quotes

00:01 – “I think it took me time to learn that in order to have a successful enterprise, it’s a long haul. It’s a much longer haul than I thought it would be and that I wanted it to be. And therefore, I think I called time on it ‘too soon’ in the sense that I didn’t give it a chance.” – Joseph O’Connor

4:50 – “We all make mistakes. I think that the trick is not to make the same one twice.” – Joseph O’Connor

8:14 – “In the way that I operate, I was a bit like a cook that when you cook the meal, not interested in eating it. So I put a lot of thought into these projects and once they came, I’m going to the next one without seeing through the one that I started. This left me with half-realized dreams, half-realized ideas, and companies that could have been something.” – Joseph O’Connor

11:33 – “Human beings are very risk-averse. We hate losing more than we like winning. So we tend to drop out rather than go for it.” – Joseph O’Connor

13:29 – “A coach is not an advisor. They’re there to help the person make their own decision and to provide a time for reflection. God knows these days, you don’t have much time to reflect on your own thinking.” – Joseph O’Connor

20:30 – “I think I’ve made more mistakes by saying yes to things than by saying no. With just so much going on, the skill of being able to be really clear about your priorities and being able to say no to something even though it may be attractive is really great and it keeps focus and keeps you out of trouble.” – Joseph O’Connor

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